As you may know, my dad passed away last month. Because he was a veteran, there was something of a gap between his passing and the day his interment could be scheduled at Fort Sam Houston National Cemetery, about 10 days. During that time, there was a lot of activity around planning the memorial service, determining when/where/if a reception would be held, getting people into town, figuring out what my mom's living situation would be going forward - stay in the same place, move to a smaller place, etc. - and what the timing of all these things would be. Add to that figuring out finances, what to stop, what to pay off, what to keep paying for, what to sell, and by the time Dad's earthly remains got planted, we were worn out and overwhelmed.
A week later, my mom finally realized that THERE WAS NO DECISION THAT NEEDED TO BE MADE IMMEDIATELY. She called and said as much, and that she was going to wait until after the holidays to make any non-urgent decisions. She's a PhD counselor type, so this may have come to her sooner than some, but it doesn't take a PhD to know that there are also some decisions which SHOULD NOT BE MADE IMMEDIATELY. All of which leads to the title of this blog entry: Take A Breath.
Juliette Funt (www.whitespaceatwork.com/) gave a talk at the 2017 Global Leadership Summit called, "The Strategic Pause". She talked about "white space" in our lives, where nothing is scheduled, where we can breathe, even if just for a moment. Although she was mainly addressing workplace productivity, the idea of a pause, a breath, as both therapeutic and productive applies to our personal lives as well - perhaps even more. Big decisions after major life upheaval, whether that upheaval is good (new baby, wedding, etc.) or bad (death, job loss, etc.) should always follow a time of breathing, of silence and solitude, of prayer and listening. Take a breath...